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Noticing Stress In Your Life

Posted on August 10, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

 A couple of years ago, I really got it about how not living my truth was causing me stress and negatively impacting my life. I began a very busy job that was both exciting and fulfilling. I was excited about all the opportunities that presented themselves for me in this position. As I became more immersed in the work, I had several ideas about how this position could grow and evolve. I used my creativity and determination to try and bring about all that I believed was possible. It was a challenging time.

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Cultivating a healthy relationship with your body

Posted on July 15, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

 What is your relationship like with your body? Do you love it? Do you hate it? When you think of your body, do you think of the physical appearance or the entirety of what your body does for you?

 In today’s society, when people talk about their body the conversation usually revolves around the physical attributes that make up their body i.e. skin, body type, hips, stomach, thighs, arms etc. When listening to the media or even conversations amongst people, there is often frustration about how the body looks as well as how it is letting us down.  
 
What can we do to be in a better relationship with our body? It is no different than if we wanted to build a better relationship with a friend – we need to spend time with it, acknowledge it, appreciate it and take care of it.

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7 Unrecognized Signs of Early Stress

Posted on July 11, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

People think of stress as being burnt out, crying alot, feeling overwhelmed and unable to cope.   While these are definately signs of stress, they are often preceded by some earlier warning signs that people do not necessarily attribute to stress. These include:

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Are you a HIGH Achieving Parent

Posted on June 6, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

If you are like most high achievers, you like the title? You set the bar high and pride yourself on doing whatever it takes to accomplish your goals. 
You have the education, dedication and motivation to get the job done well.
 
As a high achiever you have probably gone to university and received specialized training to be good at your craft. 
You have a strong work ethic and manage clients, patients, employees or contractors in the course of your work. Your work life consists of phrases such as contracts, standards, rules of engagement, return on investment, cost benefit analysis, projections, goals etc. 
There is a knowingness and confidence that comes with the education and experience you bring to your job.

With all of this structure and control in your life do you find it challenging to put the same kind of tenacity into parenting your kids?

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Are you stuck or are you in the flow?

Posted on May 24, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

I am sure you can relate to being stuck. You know those days when you need to do something or try something but your motivation, energy and ability to do anything seems to be stuck in mud. 
Everything feels hard to do and there is no joy.
 
In contrast there are days when you are on track, in the flow and totally inspired and on task to get everything done you need to get done. You are at in the zone!!
What is the difference between being stuck and being in the flow?

The answer lies within your body. 

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5 Easy Steps to Take Care of Yourself Even When You Don't Have Time

Posted on February 28, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

 In today’s crazy world we often hear, “What are you doing to take care of yourself”? 

 For many people this is yet another thing “to do” and it feels like an impossible task with so many “other things” that take priority. 
 

Today I want to offer you 5 quick and easy steps to take care of yourself “NOW”.

 When it comes to taking care of yourself, what comes to mind?

 

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Video - How is stress impacting your life

Posted on February 14, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

The last two weeks I have explored 7 steps on what you can do to decrease your steps NOW.  These steps are incredibly effective at helping us stop the mind chatter and get us into the moment.

Today,  on this video, I explore with you how stress is impacting your life.

What do you notice?

How is stress impacting your life from Gerrianne Clare on Vimeo.

 

Please comment below and let us know what is true for you around stress in your life.

Much love,

Gerrianne

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How connected are you with you?

Posted on January 23, 2011 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

It is amazing how many of my clients come to me wanting to feel better and not knowing what they need to do to achieve this goal.  With every client I find it extremely important to get at the core of what is important to them i.e. what they value most in life and would not want to live without.

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Conquer your Stress this Holiday Season

Posted on November 29, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Welcome to the Stressful Season, oops I mean,  Holiday Season!

The stores are packed, holiday plans are being  made, parties are being organized AND

Moms' lives have just taken on a whole new level  of stress.

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Are "SHOULDS" running your life?

Posted on November 22, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

How many of you live your life by "SHOULDS"?

By shoulds I mean those expectations that come from a wide variety of sources:

  1.     Society
  2.     Parents and other members of our family
  3.     Friends with all of their best of intentions
  4.     Media - TV, books, internet - all with advice from the so-called "experts" on how you should live your life
  5.     Self - all of your expectations about how you should "think", "do" and "be"

 

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Honoring The Agreements You Make With Yourself

Posted on November 1, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

This past weekend, I had the honor of accompanying a friend to the home of Don Miguel Ruis for a short visit and I was in awe.   Being in Don Miguel’s presence and witnessing his authenticity was a gift. I will remember this brief visit for a long time to come.

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Do you Suffer from Guilty Mom Syndrome?

Posted on October 18, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

If you are like most working moms (inside or outside the home) you probably find yourself feeling overwhelmed, frustrated and guilty throughout your day. 
 
Guilt is an epidemic in our society and working moms are especially prone to feeling like they never do enough, have enough or are enough for their kids.
 
Working moms want to be superhuman:  DO IT ALL, BE IT ALL and HAVE IT ALL WHILE being loving and patient in the process.  What an impossible task!!

These crazy, unrealistic expectations are sucking the life out of the heart and souls of moms everywhere. 

It needs to stop.

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Doing it alone

Posted on October 4, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Doing your life alone is incredibly hard. 
 
Whether you are parenting kids, growing your business or navigating through the chaos of day to day life, without support and guidance to get you through, life can be very lonely.  

This past weekend, I attended Max Simon’s Sold out Seminar Secrets event in San Diego. This was my third event with Max as I am one of his coaching clients. Yet, even in this room of people that I knew from previous events, other purpose driven entrepreneurs, and healers, I felt very alone.

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What Parents Want!!!

Posted on August 24, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

You asked and I have listened

Last month, I asked you to fill out a brief survey letting me know what your top two challenges are in raising your kids.  The response was overwhelming.  Check out the video below to find out what parents want and how I am responding to this.

What Parents Want!!!!!!! from Gerrianne Clare on Vimeo.

 

Sign up for FREE Teleseminar 

3 Things You Can do RIGHT NOW to Navigate Through your Kid’s Behavior

Take care and I look forward to getting to know you.

All the best

Gerrianne

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Family Guidance System

Posted on August 9, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

 Children come into this world innocent and beautiful, ready to discover their lives. Parents are excited and in awe of the ability to influence the lives of their children. However, when the realities of life hit, the challenges can be many and there is no instruction book on how to get through everything. This reality can be anything from finances, lifestyle, career expectations, to our ways of handling the different things that happen in our lives. The Family Guidance System (FGS) is here to help you find your way through the chaos of this crazy world.

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Parenting - Career Versus Motherhood - Finding Your Balance!!

Posted on July 26, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

 As a mom, there was nothing more challenging for me that finding the balance between my career and my family. I was working full time as a nurse in the Intensive Care Unit when my son was born.  I took a maternity leave for 3 months to be at home with him. The thought of leaving him in a day care after that time was too much to bear.  My husband’s job was in transition and this created the opportunity for me to stay at home full time with our son. We were incredibly lucky to have this happen.

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Parent Your Teens With Confidence

Posted on June 10, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

If you are like most parents you want to guide your children into being happy, well adjusted, responsible adults. 

The challenge is you are overwhelmed and frustrated with their acting our behavior, they don’t listen to you anymore and you don’t know how to let things go and let them grow. 
 
They don’t come with a rule book.

There is a way to meet your goals of being an effective, clear parent and not feel tortured on the inside by the decisions you make and the expectations that you have.   

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To Stress or Not to Stress - That is The Question

Posted on March 17, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Do I want to be stressed or not stressed – that is my question.

How can I have my business, be with my family and live the life I want within the context of my current day reality? There are so many demands from different aspects of my life that I often get pulled in a zillion different directions. I was under the misguided belief that if my children were grown and gone from the house that I would not have anything that would get off balance. Was I ever mistaken, I have a whole life that I want to keep healthy and strong. This means I need to pay attention to the many facets of my life. I have a great husband and I want to nurture that relationship. I have wonderful children whom I want to stay in contact with. I have great friends whom I want to stay connected with and I have my body, mind and emotions that I want to be respectful of. My choice is simple however, do I want to fully be in my life, loving what is and being present in all that I do? Or, do I want to try and do more, be more, accomplish more because I should.

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Real Life Trumps Beach Life - Every Time

Posted on February 19, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Have you ever played bridge?  When the players finish bidding they arrive at a suit that is called trump.  Trump suits win every time, no matter if you have the highest card in the deck.  What I noticed this last week is that Real Life held the trump card over my musings on the beach. 

It is amazing how I was so clear and focused about what I wanted to do when sitting on the beach with my broader perspective of  life.  When I got home to the real world, the greatest plans to connect and write about my experiences fell by the wayside. That is my truth. 
 
My life has been awesome and fulfilling but alas, I did not carry through on the writing of my experiences as I promised. I am giving myself permission to tell the truth about not doing what I said I was going to do and will find the silver lining in what I have been doing. 

Where have I been

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Day 2 - Living in the Moment or Trying To

Posted on February 5, 2010 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

 Day 2 - Living in the Moment is easier for me when I am on vacation..  There are no plans, no schedules.  Just being able to be with the fresh ocean air, the blue skies and the sensations that are going on in my body keeps me grounded in the present moment. 

Did I keep my commitment to tuning into my body with my breath a minimum of 8 times during the day? 

I am now asking myself, why did I commit to doing this?

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School Zones and Life - 7 Steps to Help You Slow Down

Posted on November 18, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

 Have you ever noticed how much more you see when you slow down for a School zone?

 
 When ever I follow the rules and slow right down, I am amazed at how much more I see.
 
I notice the children playing in the school yard. I notice the maroon painted front door, I notice the beautiful blue sky and I notice the beauty around me. I become conscious of my surroundings and appreciate what is going on around me. 
 
This is definitely a different feeling from the racing tension I get when I spend my time thinking about what is next on my list or worrying about everything I need to do.
When we spend our time racing to get to where we need to get to next, focusing on the destination rather than the journey, it is amazing how much we miss along the way. 

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5 ways to combat emotional eating

Posted on November 10, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

How many of you have found yourself with an empty bag of potato chips, or some other food item, wondering how you could possibly have eaten ALL those chips, already? You don’t remember tasting them or even chewing them and all of a sudden they are gone. 
 
Then the self abuse sets in:
 
Why don’t I have more self discipline?
I know better than to eat potato chips!!
What is wrong with me?
 
Wouldn’t it be great to find ways to combat emotional eating? I have noticed some common elements when I coach my clients with their emotional eating:

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Not Living your Truth Creates Stress

Posted on October 27, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

 

Stress for many people is caused by their living life out of integrity with what they hold near and dear to their heart – their truth. 
 
For example, if you value honesty but fear that speaking up and telling the truth in your workplace will result in losing your job, you may consciously or subconsciously make a decision that you will not say anything about the situation. Another example may be that you were educated and trained to deliver care or service in a particular way, yet the realities of the workplace make it impossible for you to do that.  You try and stuff the thoughts to the back of your mind and ignore the situation.  If you are like most people, trying to ignore the situation, not say anything and “letting it go”, creates an internal turmoil that often shows up in different ways.
 
Withholding your truth creates stress

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Living Your Truth

Posted on October 20, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

When do you know that you are living your truth? What does that even mean? In my last couple of blogs I have written about developing a relationship with yourself i.e. “Who are you” and finding out “what is important to you” i.e. your truth. In my coaching practice, I spend many sessions with clients helping them to discover the answers to these two questions. However, as many come to realize, it is not enough to know who you are and what is important to you. How do you make it a reality in your life – how do you live your truth?

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What is important to you?

Posted on October 13, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

In my last blog, I asked you to take a look at your relationship with yourself. Have you started taking time to just be with yourself, taking your intentional breaths and connecting with you? I know it takes time, but when you begin the journey of self-discovery and start developing that relationship with you, it is hard to close the door again.

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Who are you?

Posted on October 6, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Have you been asking yourself this question? What answers have you come up with? 

For many of us, when we are asked “who are you” we answer with a description of our various roles. These roles often include our family status “I am a wife, a mother, sister, aunt, uncle, brother and so on”. Some people describe themselves by their occupation “I am a nurse, teacher, secretary, business man, plumber” and others describe themselves by their sports or hobbies such as “I am a golfer, runner, hockey player, artist and so on”. Others may describe themselves by how they interact with the world “I am happy, fun, connected, loving, inspirational, creative” and any other words that describe their personality.

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September Stress – Where did that summertime bliss go?

Posted on September 24, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

 The other day I met with a client who was back to work after a great summer of little routine and lots of fun. He commented on how challenging it was to get back into the mindset of work and get things done.  He had many things on his list, but felt like he was walking in quick sand trying to accomplish them.

 
 If you are feeling this way – you are not alone.
 
After a summer of fun, relaxation and rejuvenation, many people find that 3 weeks into September they are wondering what they are doing and why they are doing what they are doing because they have lot all of that summertime bliss. Many people miss how great they felt and figure they will not feel that way again until their next holiday.

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Changes to Clare Consulting and moment-is Blog

Posted on August 31, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Hi all,

You may have noticed some changes to the moment-is blog and the Clare Consulting website.  As we get ready to launch our new online moment-is community we are slowly changing the front and back end of our site.  The first of these steps was moving our blog from Wordpress to our own hosted blog site.  Please note the moment-is blog is now http://clareconsulting.com/blog. As we move forward with more changes watch for new blog posts and details of our upcoming "Living the Life you Want" workshop series that can be accessed one of three ways:

  1. Through the moment-is on line community
  2. Every Wednesday night from September 30th - November 4th in a face to face workshop series held in Kamloops BC
  3. October 21 & 22 Saturday and Sunday in a face to face intensive workshop also to be held in Kamloops

 

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5 Easy Ways to Tune into your Body

Posted on August 26, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

As I mentioned in previous posts, Tuning into your body is a great way to become aware of the present moment.  However many people do not know what it takes to really tune in.

In my last post, I identified the breath as a great way to connect with your body. Along with the breath I would like to offer you 5 Easy ways to tune in

The Breath – Taking 3 deep intentional breaths deep into your base of your lungs.

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Are You Living the Life You Want

Posted on August 21, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

What does your ideal life look like?  If you were to carry on living your life like you are today, will you feel fulfilled and satisfied in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years?  What is getting in the way of you living the life you want?  What is your relationship like with yourself?  These are some of the questions that I ask my clients when they come in and see me. Many people feel dissatisfied with their life as they know it, yet feel powerless at changing it.

The exercise of looking at how you are currently living your life and how disconnected you are from what you want can be quite eye opening.

 

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Good Morning Body

Posted on August 4, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

 How many days do you jump (or stumble) out of bed, thinking about what you have to get done in one/two or three hours from NOW?  You head into the shower and the list of things you need to do is running like a ticker tape through your head.  From there, you grab your coffee, read the paper, feed the dog, get the kids up and out the door and before you know it you are in the car, heading off to work and you are wondering how you got there.  

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Telling yourself the truth

Posted on June 11, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

I just had the opportunity to read a great blog about limiting beliefs by Kim de Young of Metromom.  It is worthwhile reading for any of you who know that your subconscious beliefs get in the way of moving forward.  She has a great way of sharing her insights. http://metromom.com/MetromomBlog/2009/06/10/women-entrepreneurs-are-limiting-beliefs-holding-you-back/

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WHO ARE YOU? Take 5 minutes to begin your journey of discovery

Posted on May 26, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Who are you?

Many people answer this question with a description of their various

roles.

For me I am a mother, coach, workplace consultant, former nurse, wife, sister, aunt, friend etc. With each of these

roles I have certain expectations

as to

how I want to fulfill them

.

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Feeling good – “in the moment”

Posted on May 21, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

There has been a lot written about the “Law of Attraction”, “The Secret”,Power of Positive Thinking” and many others to help guide us on the road to living and thinking more positively.  These books and self improvement movements are attempting to teach us that we can manifest and achieve greatness in our lives depending on our perspective and our beliefs.  In order to have the life we want, we need to change how we think and feel in order to achieve what we want to attract in our lives.

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Cortisol – We need you but enough already

Posted on May 15, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Cortisol is a hormone that is secreted by our adrenal glands and is a necessary part of our waking and sleep cycles.  We need it to wake us up in the morning but if we have too much cortisol, it can be a problem.

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Stress and Adrenaline – what can you do?

Posted on May 13, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Adrenaline is a hormone that is secreted by our sympathetic nervous system in response to an event real or imagined that has us scared.  People often refer to it as the fight, fright or freeze response.  It is the hormone that is responsible for people having an uncanny amount of strength in scary situations e.g. lifting a car off a person to save their life etc.

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BLOW OFF SOME STEAM!!!

Posted on May 11, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

One of the ways for helping to get you in the moment is to ask:

In this moment – how do I feel? Many of my clients feel angry, frustrated or overwhelmed by the demands put on them by themselves, their families or their workplace.  Yet they put on a mask by being nice all of the time, holding it in and not telling the truth about how they are feeling.  On the inside they are seething.

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Not doing it all!!!!

Posted on May 8, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Well, I am so excited. It is my dad’s 85th birthday and I am throwing him a party.  Years ago, I would have stressed out for days wanting to do it all, have it be perfect and trying to make the impression on everyone that I have it all handled and can do it all with Martha Steward flair.  What pressure it is to try and maintain that level of perfection.

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6 Tips to Help Our Kids De-stress

Posted on May 5, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Hello all,

For those of us who are parents, the idea that our kids are not finding effective ways of coping with stress is scary.  When you see all of the problems with childhood obesity, anxiety, depression, eating disorders etc.  there is often a fear that we are not doing enough for our kids to help them with the challenges they face.

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A very real moment!!

Posted on April 30, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

Last night a young woman, who is a very close friend of our family, came by for a visit.  This lovely young woman has had numerous challenges in her life lately and is having to live with the consequences of previous decisions she has made.  She phoned me earlier to say she needed to come to see me and sounded quite distraught.  I have been a mentor and coach to her over the years and knew she was going through a difficult time .

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3 Voices that live in your Head!!!!

Posted on April 28, 2009 12:00:00am, by Gerrianne Clare

When we talk about our connection with ourselves, it is interesting to note that we have three voices that live within us: the body, the mind and the self (soul, spirit). By recognizing these three voices we can become aware of which one is asking for our attention and where we want to focus our response.

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